Relationship Rescue Program

Save Your Marriage!!

Relationships are a fundamental part of our lives and I believe that relationships are fundamental to our existence – our reason for being. Yet we have a divorce rate of over 50% and we suffer horribly when our marriage is in trouble.

Where is your marriage going? On a path you wish to be traveling or a path you feels like it is leading to divorce?

Determine if your marriage is in serious trouble: listed here are four typical characteristics of a marriage seriously on the rocks:

Defensiveness: Do you feel constantly on the defense or argue together to the point that both you and your partner are blaming the other? If so,  your relationship is in serious trouble.
Defending oneself is normal when feeling attacked, but it is not just the act of putting up a defensive wall that your partner can’t get through. It becomes attacking and retaliation. Some ways people ward off attacks is through making accusations, cross complaining, yes butting, and others.

Criticism: Do you feel that your character is being criticized or do you criticize your partner, pointing to them as being bad or totally at fault?
Criticism of the person, their character, their personality is damaging not only to your partner, but it does damage to the relationship over time and increases the level of defensiveness. Many couples have complaints about their partner but complaints are very different than criticism. Particularly if a marriage is going south, criticism can be poison that eats away at the foundation of the relationship.

Contempt: Being demeaned or demeaning and insulting your partner with name calling or hostile humor can be a death toll for a marriage.
Name calling, hostile humor or sarcasm, and certain types of body language and tone of voice (rolling of eyes, sneering, etc.) This is criticism on steroids.

Stonewalling: Do you or your partner withdraw from conflict and then never return to the issues so they can be resolved. This builds resentment and hostility over time.
Withdrawal to avoid conflict – e.g. stony silence, muttering under your breath, changing the subject without explanation, removing yourself physically- without explanation. Some people go silent as a means of avoiding the conflict. Some use silnce like a weapon of punishment. In either case is blocks connection and intimacy.

If you are seeing one or more of these symptoms in your marriage regularly and feel that your relationship suffers from other dishearting issues, now is the time to act and save your relationship before it spins out of control. I offer several different services that can help you bring your life and marriage back on track:

The Relationship Rescue Program

This program is two to three extended sessions (2 hours each) in quick succession of intensive counseling (all in one week if possible) to help put your relationship back on track and to begin the repair and healing process. This is the last resort before a couple calls it quits.
 
Relationship Repair Program: consists of weekly, less intensive Marriage counseling. It usually takes several weeks or months to get things back on track and requires a capacity for more impulse control to prevent relationship damage between sessions.

Relationship coaching: is a program for a couple who is committed to their relationship and is not overly caught up in past hurt and pain. This program builds the relationship towards more happiness, health, and blissful living.